We often hear from parents that they complain and are upset about the behavior of their teenagers, so they cannot deal with them. Every interaction between them ends in quarrels, stubbornness, rebellion, distance, and isolation by the children. Parents are very upset about this, and they get confused about how to reach solutions, bring ideas closer, and communicate between (parents) and their children.

The key to dealing with teenagers 

In fact, the secret and key to dealing with teenagers are when parents know the best way they should be following to deal with their teenagers, at this difficult, critical, and important stage in their children’s lives, and for parents to be aware of what this period means and its characteristics, and the reasons behind their suffering in dealing with their teenagers, as the suffering of parents with their teenage sons results from their lack of knowledge and lack of awareness of the features of that stage and the changes that occur to their teenagers, at that stage parents treat their teenagers as children, and they must respond to them in everything, while the children have entered the stage of adolescence, during which they feel independence, preoccupation with themselves, freedom from parental authority, and tend to make their own decisions. Hence, teenagers may make wrong and random decisions due to their insufficient maturity, but the effect of the changes on them makes them stick to making decisions on their own away from their parents.

So what is adolescence and what should we understand about it?

The period of adolescence, comes from the verb rahiq, and it means in the Arabic language a transitional period between childhood and the stage of youth and connects them, in which children go through some psychological, physical, mental, and emotional changes, preparing them to reach the stage of youth, as it is an unstable and difficult period, just like a passenger waiting in transit; to complete his journey towards his destination. 

Adolescence is a difficult and dangerous stage

Since this stage is unstable and unclear; This period is accompanied by psychological, mental, physical, and emotional changes. The adolescent is confused, tense, violent, nervous, reckless, impulsive, make wrong decisions, experiences many tensions and problems that the adolescent cannot avoid, and thus falls under psychological and social pressures. Therefore, this stage of adolescents’ life needs special treatment from parents, and therefore it is difficult, and it is also a dangerous stage; Because if it passed in peace, and on the correct educational and foundational principles, care, and good follow-up, the youth stage would be fine, and therefore educators took care of this stage; Because it is a preparatory stage for the important stage of youth, which builds and develops society. If the adolescent grows up properly, it will later make him a responsible young man and a productive member of his society.

Let’s get acquainted with the characteristics that appear in the behavior of a teenager:

First: The teenager tends to prove himself and his abilities, and this leads the teenager to be free from family restrictions, rejecting any guardianship from others, and excessive independence in order to develop an independent personality that proves its ability to face life’s challenges.

Second: Recklessness. Adolescents make hasty decisions without considering their consequences. They think differently, and they have beliefs and viewpoints that may often push them to rush because they are in a stage of clear confusion in the psychological, mental, physical, and emotional aspects…

Third: stubbornness, and this is a clear characteristic in the teenager to prove his manhood, and not to be drawn into his family, because the teenage period is a bridge in which he moves from childhood to manhood, he wants to show his masculinity in front of others, and this feeling generates him a desire to recklessness and stubbornness without thinking about the consequences of things. In addition to his behavior that annoys the parents and the family in general, their mood swings and their imposition of control stem from his desire to prove his new manhood.

Fourth: Adolescents stop paying attention to the actions of their parents and focus on life because they are more concerned with themselves than any external era around them. Because they can’t understand what they’re going through. Parents should be aware of the correct, modern, and effective educational methods that contribute to facilitating the upbringing of adolescents, dealing with them, and building a strong bond between them.